Years ago, in my classroom of 4 year olds, little Stephanie walked up to me
amid the hustle and bustle of children engaged around the room and said,
“I’m boring.” Besides the obvious misuse of the word and my temptation to
laugh, I recognized that Stephanie was asking for help. We talked a bit
about what kinds of things she might do. We looked around the room to see
what other children were doing. I made suggestions. She shrugged her
Young children often misuse words and occasionally their words disguise the
true meaning of what they are feeling. Stephanie’s true problem was not
about boredom. She didn’t know how to find a friend, to fit into the play
and activity of the room. Fortunately, I was able to help Stephanie with
that. Once involved with other children, she never complained again about
But for Stephanie and for all children, having moments of boredom is a good
thing. It allows children time to simply float along, daydream, or imagine.
Boredom is useful in that it compels children to invent, to switch gears,
to think of something new, and to learn to enjoy their own company.
Boredom in our classrooms
However, in fairness, I think we must think carefully about our classroom
environment and curriculum. What if the classroom is boring? Children can
be busy, but uninterested and disengaged from the activity. There are
different types of boredom; we can distinguish between them by observing
what children do in their environment.
Are children engaged in things that are interesting to them?
Are they mostly deeply involved in their play?
Do they feel that they belong and are treated kindly?
Do they have adventures and challenges to pursue?
If they are and do, they may be bored from time to time, but this will not
interfere in their pleasure and learning. They may have moments of boredom,
but will use that downtime to invent new ways to play.
If they are being asked to sit still and listen more than they are
allowed to actively participate, they will be bored.
If they do not spend long periods of play outdoors, they will be
If they do not get to move most of the day, they will be bored.
This kind of “bored” is not helpful because it is built into the program,
ignores the child’s needs, and leaves the child unable to invent new paths
to play and learning. It keeps children busy but not interested and
engaged. In other words, (as we all know) you can be busy while being bored
When a parent complains that her child is bored in a classroom, teachers
should ask, “What is the parent really saying or feeling?” Take time to
consider the context of families lives today, the pressures families
experience with the constant barrage of misinformation they receive from
the media, and the attitude changes about childhood that have taken place
over the years.
Changes in attitude, expectations, and environment of childhood
It's not clear whether children complain more today than they used to about
being bored, but we do know that childhood has changed considerably during
the past 30 years. This is not because young children have fundamentally
changed, but because of the environment in which they find themselves and
the expectations placed on them have changed. Perhaps, today, there is a
tendency for adults to believe they must alleviate a child’s boredom,
compared to a time when parents did not feel it was their responsibility. A
parent of 30 years ago might say, “You’re bored? Figure out something to
Listed below are a few factors that reveal how childhood has changed and
influenced our attitude about time and boredom.
More structured lives. Most young children spend full days in
childcare settings and after school programs and then find
themselves in structured activities during the weekends. These
children simply do not have any practice in boredom and, therefore,
do not know what to do when it occurs.
Play. Adults once assumed that play was the work and natural
occupation of children. By definition, play means that children are
engaged in self-initiated activities, alone or with other children.
For young children, play encompasses fantasy, use of their senses,
being active, and using their bodies to understand the world around
them. Children who play often become master players and do not need
much outside guidance. When bored, children invent things to do
because they regulate the play. Has that changed?
Entertainment. There seems to be a sense that children must be
entertained to keep them from being bored. This might explain the
highly orchestrated children’s parties, and the many structured,
adult-led activities and sports in which young children are now
participating. Children are rarely left to their own devices and
time is scheduled rather than experienced.
Technology. Technology offers children a constant array of
stimulating virtual activities for which there is no need for a
pause or interruption, a friend, or an idea to blossom. There is no
opportunity to be bored in a “good” way.
Anxiety. Parents express anxiety about their children not making
the grade in school and in life. They worry about their child’s
future and believe that play or “doing nothing” is a waste of
precious time and instead choose time spent on skill building or
academic programs that keep their child occupied.
Making room for creativity
I once had a parent tell me that she was concerned that our pre-school
program would not be stimulating enough for her child. She wanted to see
worksheets, step-by-step crafts, memorization, and—I kid you not—homework.
I explained it was very possible that our program was not what she was
looking for but that, in my experience, the really bright kids (and as far
as I’m concerned, all kids are bright kids), are completely bored by doing
worksheets, memorizing letters, waiting in line, or reciting
teacher-directed words. In fact, those activities require very little
intellectual rigor and discourage creative thinking. I invited the parent
to look around the classroom at the children’s faces and to look at what
they were doing. I stood with her as we watched children intensely involved
in conversations, inquiry, problem solving, laughter, kindness, and
intellectual pursuits through various kinds of play experiences. Did a
child seem bored on occasion? Probably. But the children and the teachers
were okay with that. Good things come from that occasional boredom and we
trusted that children knew how to make those good things happen.
In those days, our school owned a filmstrip that we would show to the
children a few times each year. It was called, “Nothing is Something To
Do”. I wish I still had a copy. Better yet, I wish we, adults and children,
could adopt that attitude as we enter a new year. We all need a little time
to listen to our own thoughts and to simply “be” with our boredom and
recognize that nothing is something to do.
After 25 years as teacher and then director at a school for children from
the ages of two and a half through eight years old, Judi Pack began working
with teachers of young children. She taught graduate courses in early
childhood and worked for a childcare resource and referral agency as their
early childhood specialist. Judi has presented workshops at local,
national, and international conferences. She now works as an independent
consultant encouraging early childhood professionals to listen carefully to
children and to build on their ideas and interests.